Relationship Advice from 1939
Jeff and I were out watching "The Women" at the Castro Theatre yesterday afternoon. Besides being a catty/bitchy/campy masterpiece, the movie's moral is the basic premise behind open gay relationships.
Your man wants some strange from time to time. Deal with it or suffer a string of relationships that fail when your husband has an affair (or leaves you to have some new strange). He still loves you. The floozey doesn't mean anything to him.
Gay men have become very good at this concept. Many couples are able to be honest with each other about their feelings, set rules, follow them, and keep the one relationship they cherish. I used to be very closed to the concept of any openness in a relationship, until I saw how well it can work with my friends marriages.